Aug 31, 2020

Focus on the Good

I remember when I saw Lauren Daigle perform on the Ellen DeGeneres show and I thought her performance was amazing and so powerful. She was singing about Jesus on a massive platform and using her God-given talent to do so. I couldn’t help but beam with pride for a girl I didn’t know personally, for no other reason other than she is a fellow believer. But, I immediately thought in my head “I hope she is ready for the backlash.”

Sometime later, I heard her in an interview and she was expressing that she was surprised at the response from some Christians about her appearance on the show. All I could think of was, “I am a pastor’s kid and sadly, none of what she said surprised me.”

As a pastor’s kid, to survive and still be a believer at the end of the day, you have to learn a lesson at a very young age—to focus on God and not on people. People are going to disappoint you time and time again, especially in the ministry. They will openly criticize your dad in front of you. In my case, it didn’t matter my age. I remember hearing it at the young age of 8. My friend’s parents (who I had been going to church with for years) would get up in business meetings at church and say very mean, untrue things about my dad. Unfortunately, you will see people who are nice to your face, only to get up and walk out of the church service as soon as your dad starts preaching, as some sort of protest that no one else is participating in. I thought the church was for worshipping God, not protesting people you dislike. As a pastor’s kid, it can get to a point where you can become so untrusting of people because you have seen the dark, backstabbing side of those who claim to be the religion of love.

Yet, when I look back at growing up in the church, I am so grateful I am still a believer. My faith became rooted in Jesus and not in the actions of other Christians. I lived through the 90s when the traditional versus contemporary church services debate was alive and well. People arguing over petty and ridiculous things. It felt like the focus was self-serving and not serving the Lord. My parents taught me, again and again, to focus on who God is because people are imperfect. We are all so imperfect.

On the total opposite side of the scale, the church has shown up for my family in so many ways and I would like to point these things out as well. Recently, my Papa (Dad’s father) passed away. The outpouring of love and support from our church family was overwhelming in the best way. My Dad was trying to stop some of it, and I told him that he would do the same for each of these people because that’s who God called him to be. The church can be the most wonderful, beautiful thing you can ever be a part of; or it can be a brutal place. This may be your experience as it has been mine. But you can choose which to focus on. You have to focus on the goodness of God and continuously forgive like crazy.

The only thing that remains constant is God’s love for each and every person, no matter who they are or what they have done.

Focus on the good of God and love the people around you from that point.

Forget about the things that don’t matter.

Love your neighbor.

That is all God asks of us.

I encourage you to continue focusing on the good no matter what your own personal experience is.

Where am I now as an adult PK? I am serving in ministry. My faith led me on a journey that ended up in Uganda, East Africa. I am the founder of an organization called Elizabeth’s Voice. We empower women by creating dignified jobs and by selling handmade products made by women around the world. We then reinvest back into the communities by helping these women make changes in their own lives. We provide school fees for vulnerable children, implement hospital visits and so much more. You can find out more about our work on our website, www.elizabethsvoice.org.

 

By <a href="https://pastorskids.org/author/amy-brewer/" target="_self">Amy Brewer</a>

By Amy Brewer

Amy Brewer lives in Texas and founded the nonprofit organization, Elizabeth’s Voice that empowers women around the globe. It started with a chance encounter with an Ugandan woman that was empowering women in her community by selling handmade products. They started to work together and now employ 32 full-time single moms and widows in Uganda. You can find out more information about our organization on our website elizabethsvoice.org.