Nov 19, 2021

How to Deal With Strong Emotions

Since I was a young child, I have felt emotions very deeply. For example, when my Barbie doll would lose a shoe, it felt like my world was crumbling.

I’ve always been extremely empathetic—it is a gift that God has given me. Though sometimes it really doesn’t feel like a gift or a blessing. This may be a gift that many of us PK’s have.

Through my experience, I have learned (and continue to learn) how to manage these emotions and not let them spiral out of control. When asked to share my heart of this, I felt the Lord saying that I needed to share tools on working through these emotions. I pray these are helpful for you as they have been for me:

  1. Feel the energy of the room, but do not claim it.

When you cling onto a feeling and take on that feeling, it causes an inner war within yourself. Your heart and mind cannot be stable and focus on the Lord if you are in an emotional battle with yourself. I have found that when my heart is unsteady, so is my relationship with God. Learn to navigate past the negative, and accept the goodness that comes with the heart of God.

  1. Work through the spirit of offense.

What does the spirit of offense mean?  It means that when we are offended, we need to work through it and not dwell in it. I was very shocked when I found out that Scripture talks about this as a sin (Hebrews 12:15). Do not hold on to bitterness, no matter the offense. When you live in offense it hinders not only your relationship with the Lord and takes away your peace. Something I have personally learned in this season of life, is that people will talk. People will never stop gossiping or engaging in drama–they will never stop being human. Something I have also learned, is that I can make a personal decision to not live in offense when others rise up against me. Here is something I remind myself of often:

I will not react to others comments, judgment and hatred.

I will not react to how the world might view me because of my relationship with God.

This leads me to my last point…

  1. You must fight the fear of rejection, the fear of man, and the fear of failure.

The other night I went to a powerful worship night. There, they talked about these three fears.

Rejection. Man. Failure.

Fear controls so many lives. I still live in the fear of man. I am human, I feel things, and this is totally normal. I think that one of my greatest victories has been overcoming the fear of failure. I found myself in an emotional pattern of thinking…

“I cannot fail or I will disappoint God and/or my family.”

“What if they reject me and it’s awkward?”

“What if they judge me for who I am or for what I believe?”

I want to encourage you, when you free yourself from this mentality, you become so free from emotional bondage and torment. From one PK to another, I pray you found this advice useful and are able to apply it to your daily life. You are loved–I love you, God loves you, and you are cared about beyond measure!

By <a href="https://pastorskids.org/author/kaylee/" target="_self">Kaylee</a>

By Kaylee

Kaylee is a teenage Pastor’s Kid who has started a blog to help other PKs feel less alone. She has been a PK her entire life and has a heart to use her experiences to help others. Kaylee enjoys writing and worship and we are so thankful to have her share her heart with us through this blog.