Jan 31, 2020

What I Learned as a PK

My name is Sarah . I am a pastors kid. I have extremely supportive ministerial parents who went above and beyond to make sure we were well adjusted and that all of mine and my sisters spiritual and emotional needs were met.

My parents never had expectations of me that I could not live up to. I believe that was because they knew number 1, that, like them I am not exempt from sin; and number 2, that they knew I did not choose to be a PK and therefore shouldn’t be held to higher standards than “normal” kids. I actually put more pressure on myself than my parents put on me, because I tend to be a perfectionist. I struggled with that until I figured out that God and my parents would love me no matter what. I didn’t have to be perfect, because that’s something I will never attain on this earth. I only had to do my best to live a life pleasing to God. Once God took that pressure from me and showed me there wasn’t anything I could do to make Him or my parents stop loving me, my day to day life was so much easier.

I didn’t have to be perfect, because that’s something I will never attain on this earth. I only had to do my best to live a life pleasing to God.

My husband is also a pastor’s kid. Yet, he grew up on another end of the spectrum. His parents were very permissive and uninvolved in his day to day life once he reached his teenage years. His dad also placed work/ministry above family time often; not that you don’t need to do that sometimes as a minister, but it is important to know balance, and to figure out when your family needs to come first. He grew up acting out and being rebellious. That’s not to say that people that grow up with supportive parents don’t rebel, because the propensity to rebel also has to do with personality. I believe you have a better chance if you have supportive parents who balance time well and/or a good support system.

Something I have learned growing up as a PK is the importance of having a positive mentor and positive friendships. Luckily for me, my parents were the positive mentors that I needed. If you don’t have that relationship with your parents for some reason, I believe it is so important to seek one out. If you feel discouraged in doing so, talk to them about it. Or, talk to a youth leader about it. Having a community of believers can make all the difference.

By <a href="https://pastorskids.org/author/sarah/" target="_self">Sarah</a>

By Sarah